Healing the Broken Self

Healing oneself is grounded in Shamanistic traditions and actions. Something that was helpful to me during my studies seems like an obvious concept but is sometimes overlooked. I was asked the question “Who is this self that believes it needs healing?” So before jumping into any healing process I first had to examine who needed healing. Much of the time the truthful answer was nobody. Nobody needed healing because nobody was broken.

It wasn’t that someone was broken, damaged, or needed help, it was the belief that I was broken that needed to be seen and experienced. And the funny thing was, once seen for what it was, a perspective built on a belief, the broken self faded, lost power, and finally disappeared. Sometimes we need a process that helps lead us out of a traumatic experience because the created belief is so deep and embedded. But many times we decide that our broken self is our new identity until we look deeply into who that is and realize it’s our clinging to illusion and delusional beliefs that makes our perspective seem real.

Later on in life when I studied to be a counselor I kept recognizing the false belief concept as a staple in the counselor business and had first hand experience seeing how realizing that self image is a belief and not a reality was a path to some freedom.

Who is this self? Who is it that wants or needs? It’s a handy question that I continue to find useful to this day.

Be kind to you,

Bryan Wagner

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  1. Healing for me is the integration of all the “selves” that make up who I am in this life as a living soul, multidimensional and complex in the most beautiful of ways. Seeing past illusions of fear and suffering, knowing that the roads I walked all have served a purpose in the lessons I have learned and continue to. Caring for my mind, body and spirit intentionally. Making myself priority number one. I always appreciate your perspective my friend as we walk similar roads that all lead to further understanding of who we are, love. Love pure and simple. Take care of you my friend πŸ˜Šβ€πŸ™

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  2. Hi Bryan,

    This is very powerful and when you say, ”But many times we decide that our broken self is our new identity until we look deeply into who that is and realize it’s our clinging to illusion and delusional beliefs that makes our perspective seem real”. For me, when I suffered with the onset of my midlife crisis, it was a build up of illusions and delusions, plus poisonous levels of attachments which caused the pain in who I felt I was at that time. But slowly in the afternath, it was more about letting all that go and coming back to the person I truly am underneath all that. Tuning into my essence, you could say, stripped of all the negative and destructive habits of being which we so easily accumulate in life. That was the healing and from there comes growth. Of course, it’s always about being mindful and aware that one doesn’t return to the place of strife! Thank you, Bryan

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    1. Wow. What you wrote is exactly so for me and so well said. I think for me it might be necessary to live in delusion and fantasy in order to come to the awareness that it is delusional and fantasy. Everything seems to have a purpose and meaning, even if it’s suffering. What an amazing thing it is to be a Human Being.
      Take care of you and all you love.

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