I get involved in discussions concerning this planet and how we all treat each other. And, of course, what we can do about it to enable peace and prosperity for all. I always end up in the same container. So much injustice and inequality in our world hinges on what people believe and think is true. Most of these belief’s were implanted as conditioning since birth. What’s right and wrong, what’s acceptable, who to have as friends and lovers, what rules and regulations apply, what morals and ethics have to be protected. But what it all comes down to is the way our stream of thought is attached to beliefs. We go to war over what rises in the stream of thought and our beliefs. We intellectually agree to many things that go by the way side the instant the separated self is dented.
But pretending to change intellectually and cognitively is easy, learning to feel a new way in the heart is a lot of intense work. The emotional heart is where a shift becomes the way.
So we can learn new ideas, contemplate new behaviors, and learn new ways to function. But how do we change a hardened heart? The heart that is embedded in what’s right and wrong, that’s invested in protecting ego, that lives in emotions and the way things feel, and loves it’s own opinions?
I have no easy answers. But I do suspect what’s helpful is taking the time to see how we really are, not our idea’s of who we are, but how do I operate in the real world? So here’s two self reflective thoughts.
How do I feel about things when I am by myself?
I find it more difficult to pretend with myself. Because what I really believe and feel in my heart will surface in the mirror of contemplation. It’s the heart singing back with an honest message. Saying what’s correct and portraying an accepted belief is easy with others. Not so much when I am facing a mirror.
Do I want to live my life’s experience feeling this way?
If the answer is no, then wait and be patient. Do not jump on the first response but let the stream of thought start to reflect, stay open, breath, and wait. It may take a while for the answer to appear, sometimes minutes, sometimes days or months.
So often the answer appears without a struggle and without attempting to force it. Other times, it will appear as insight while your going about your day. The point is to keep listening with the understanding you’re seeking change. We are so much more compassionate and open than our conditioned self reveals in day to day life. So have those intimate moments with you, I think it’s worth the time.
Take care of you,