Presence/Absence Tao and Zen

Many times life offers the opportunity to really comprehend some of the intellectual and cognitive idea’s that float around. I find that understanding the concept of impermanence is easier than the actual comprehension. But I had a life lesson Sunday.

A friend died. I won’t go into details because I’m not sure who’s been notified yet. But he messaged me, Friday I believe, and said he had a clot in his lung and had been admitted. He had serious medical issue and was concerned that this was not good. We texted about impermanence and the mystery of what happens next. He was unsure when he would be able to communicate again.

Then I got a message Sunday around noon that he had died.

He was present for his life and now absent. We had been friends for a long time, had lost touch, and reconnected via Facebook. We talked on Google Duo every two weeks. He was a remarkable person, always seeking wisdom, willing to live a hard life, and yet never gave up on those he loved, and found time to appreciate both the sweet and bitter of life. He wasn’t a pretender and always said what he meant, I really appreciated that.

I will miss him.

Today the heart understands. All life is impermanent. What we know for sure is we arrive, live our lives, and exit. What matters is how we live while we are alive, how we treat our journey while it lasts. Today this message is so driven into my heart that I don’t think I’ll ever let it go. How utterly important that simple message is, the future is not promised or known, what we have is the miracle of these moments.

I read this somewhere and can’t remember who said it but it’s a solid message:

“Enjoy the cookie while you have it. It’s the only one you get.”

Love your life and fall in love with all life.

Bryan Wagner

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  1. Amen brother πŸ™ to live each day fully, alive and present is yo honor the gift that life is! Beautifully said Bryan. My condolences and respect to your friend for his life, honoring his journey and its continuation in another. May he be in peace always πŸ™

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