A friend had asked me to explain what I mean when I offer the encouragement to “Keep going.” I believe that I have little control over the bittersweet experience of reality. All sorts of unexpected things are always rising and then falling. I often tell myself that, regardless of what happens, accept it, don’t waste energy telling myself stories about it, and keep going. I developed this reference frame after an incident I had driving home from my job as a counselor one winter.
I was driving home from work on the I-275 freeway one snowy afternoon. I was doing about 35 miles per hour because a snowstorm had left the freeway extremely icy, so I and a few others were being cautious. As I rounded a curve a pickup truck that had just flown past started to slide, moved out of it’s lane and hit a car in the next lane. This started a pinball effect that included several cars. I had nowhere to turn and didn’t want to brake, so I drove through the cars that were pinwheeling in front of me. I remember watching two cars spinning past me as I drove towards them careening off each other and bouncing to either side of me. There were bits and pieces of cars all over the place. I kept driving up the middle unscathed. A miracle in progress. As I drove clear I could see in the rearview mirror that the freeway had come to a grinding close behind me.
I realized, that despite of what was happening around me, I kept going because I had no option that seemed reasonable under the circumstances. Eleven cars had crashed and piled up as I drove through. I had the insight that this is life. There are times when the only option I can choose is to keep going. There is no guarantee’s of outcome, but the chances of experiencing new possibilities and possible outcomes stop when I do.
So, I have two things I attempt to keep attention on. Be kind, and keep going. Somedays those two things are more than enough to keep me busy.
Take care of you, and keep going.