M.Ruiz Jr wrote the Four Agreements, and for a “Shamanistic” based book I found it very truthful. One of the agreements is to always do your best.
Doing your best means to use whatever you have in the moment to engage with what’s in front of you. That “best” will be radically different from moment to moment and day to day. Sometimes you have the energy, drive, attention, desire, and willingness to give a lot of you, sometimes your tired, fragmented, out of sorts, and unfocused, and still, you do your best. Some people would want to compare those states and judge one “best” over the other. It doesn’t work. I can’t be judgmental about the effort of each moment, just doing what I do to the fullest I can.
Sometimes, when interacting with people, your best won’t be enough. And it works both ways, the other person’s best doesn’t satisfy you. But that doesn’t mean that you or the other person is inadequate or not trying and giving all that’s possible. It means that the “best” you can do at any minute will be contingent upon your abilities and circumstances. The most important thing is to search heart and mind, and if you did the best you could, accept that and continue. If not commit to an intention to stay focused and in the moment so when the need arises again you will do as well as possible.
We all know when we did our best under the circumstances and when we didn’t. But that’s not open to judgment, it’s open as a learning about how you are under different circumstances.
The other arena that I find important is to do the best for yourself. Give yourself as much of your own attention and caring as possible. The bottom line is it’s your ultimate responsibility to do the very best for you where ever you are and in whatever circumstances you find yourself.
Take care of you, and share this if it’s helpful.