“In order to be happy oneself, it is necessary to make at least one other person happy.” – Theodor Reik
Well that pretty much says it all, doesn’t it? I used to chase after “Being Happy” constantly. I read a lot of books, read articles, attended workshops, and discussed happiness with a lot of “Teachers.”
What I found was happiness comes and goes, it’s pretty contingent on mood, environment, and circumstances. Fleeting and insubstantial. Rising and Falling.
I ran across this quote. I am steeped in Tao and Zen’s great doubt so of course I had to experiment. I spent a week intentionally doing things for others that might result in being happy, for them and, if the quote was correct, me.
Intentionally doing things to make other’s happy had an enormous impact on my own sense of joy and wonder. The very satisfaction of seeing others in a happy state evoked my own. It doesn’t take much.
Here’s something you can intend to do that costs nothing but a bit of your time. Pay attention to someone. Not the rushed, hey how are ya, kind of attention. But the dedicated act of allowing others to see they are your entire focus for a bit. My experience says that really enables happiness in others, and in you.
Happiness rises and falls, but at least I have a way to initiate it now. Give it a day. What’s to lose? When you see this working it will be priceless.
Let me know how it goes if you decide to dedicate a day to this experiment.
Take care of you, you are the only you there will ever be, treasure that.